Caring about what others think is usually a natural behavior, there’s nothing wrong with that. It helps us to get accepted and feel secure within the tribe. Worrying what others think, however, can be a problem.
The difference is when you care what others think, you accept and respect their opinion, nevertheless, you don’t let it determine your choice or affect your self-worth.
Whereas if you are worrying what others think, you provide their judgement to define how you feel about yourself.
If you can find yourself regularly worrying with what others think, it can result in a paralysis in your lifetime. You may become stuck in the rut and struggling to trust yourself to make decisions or take actions.
The more stuck you become, the greater you overthink others opinions and disregard your individual opinions.
With some clients, it’s led to them ignoring their wants and needs and instead, they become totally dedicated to getting approval from others. This really kills your confidence and knocks your self-esteem.
Fortunately, you’ll be able to reduce your worrying and care more about your individual needs, beliefs and desires.
A number of quick ideas to help you are:
Start being conscious of when you are making decisions or taking actions determined by others approval. Challenge yourself that explain why you are doing this and whether you could do it differently.
Develop self-approval. Record the achievements you’re making, the items you’re happy with and your positive strengths. Congratulate yourself if you show the confidence to help keep to your beliefs.